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I've always believed parents have a responsibility to protect their children's innocence.
Children shouldn't be rushed into adulthood. They shouldn't have to deal with situations they're not emotionally prepared for. And I certainly don't believe a thirteen-year-old needs to behave like a grown woman.
But there's something else I believe just as strongly.
Keeping children innocent and keeping them ignorant are not the same thing.
And if protecting your child's innocence means refusing to explain the very things she needs to know to recognize danger, you've got a problem.
That's exactly what happens in one of the most memorable episodes of Good Times.
It's called "Stomach Mumps."
Willona Woods, played by Ja'net DuBois, is horrified to learn that one of her adopted daughter Penny's friends is pregnant.
Penny, played by Janet Jackson, begins asking questions.
And Willona decides her daughter is much too young to hear the truth.
Florida Evans, played by Esther Rolle, knows better.
She repeatedly urges Willona to talk to Penny, explain things honestly, and stop pretending that ignorance will keep her safe.
Willona becomes furious.
She accuses Florida of interfering with her parenting.
Their argument becomes so heated that she forbids Penny from visiting the Evans apartment.
And then something happens that demonstrates precisely why Florida was so concerned.
Penny is sexually threatened by a friend's brother while trying to borrow a pair of gym shorts.
She escapes and returns home frightened, confused, and wondering whether she's done something wrong.
I remember this episode because of that moment.
And I have to say something about it.
Florida was right. Willona loved Penny, but love wasn't enough. Penny needed information, and Willona was so determined to protect her from the subject that she nearly failed to prepare her for the danger.
That's a lesson worth revisiting.
The Girl With the "Stomach Mumps"
"Stomach Mumps" originally aired October 14, 1978, during the sixth season of Good Times.
The episode was written by Michael G. Moye and directed by Gerren Keith.
It begins with Willona becoming increasingly uncomfortable about the sexual behavior she notices around her.
Thelma and her new husband Keith are affectionate with each other.
Young people are kissing on the bus.
And Penny has begun hearing unfamiliar expressions from her classmates.
Willona is alarmed.
But the real trouble begins when she learns that Penny's thirteen-year-old friend Tina is pregnant.
Willona worries that Penny is growing up too quickly.
She doesn't want her daughter to become sexually active.
And she certainly doesn't want Penny ending up pregnant at such a young age.
I understand that concern completely.
A parent ought to be concerned about a child's well-being, future, and readiness for adult responsibilities.
But Willona doesn't simply explain that Tina is dealing with something serious.
She invents an illness.
According to Willona, Tina has a contagious condition called "stomach mumps."
And Penny had better stay away from her.
Now, I realize this is a sitcom.
And the phrase is supposed to be funny.
But there's something awfully revealing about Willona's solution.
Her daughter's friend is pregnant.
Penny is asking questions.
And instead of giving an honest, age-appropriate explanation, Willona tells her a ridiculous story about a disease that doesn't exist.
What exactly is that supposed to accomplish?
Penny isn't becoming safer.
She's becoming misinformed.
And to make matters worse, Willona is teaching her to avoid a friend who may need support.
Tina hasn't become contagious.
She's a pregnant teenager.
And I don't think the appropriate response is to treat her like somebody with the plague.
Florida Understood Something Willona Didn't
Florida has raised three children.
She has experience dealing with difficult conversations.
And she understands that Penny is growing up in a world where children hear things whether parents approve or not.
She knows Penny will encounter information at school, in the neighborhood, and through other people.
The question isn't whether Penny will learn about sex.
The question is whether she'll learn accurate information from someone she trusts or distorted information from somebody who doesn't have her best interests at heart.
And Florida makes that distinction repeatedly.
I particularly appreciate that she doesn't treat teaching a child about sex as encouraging the child to have it.
Willona worries that talking about the subject might make Penny curious enough to experiment.
Florida challenges that assumption.
And I agree with Florida.
Knowing something exists doesn't mean you have to participate in it.
Explaining pregnancy to a child isn't an invitation to become pregnant.
Teaching bodily boundaries doesn't encourage someone to violate them.
And answering honest questions doesn't destroy a child's innocence.
It gives the child knowledge.
What the child does with that knowledge depends on many things, including maturity, values, circumstances, and guidance.
But refusing to explain reality doesn't make reality disappear.
You cannot protect a child from a subject by pretending the subject doesn't exist.
You can, however, make the child less prepared to understand it.
And that's the mistake Willona is making.
Willona Wasn't a Bad Mother. She Was a Frightened One.
Now, I don't want to be unfair to Willona.
Because there's something important about her relationship with Penny that makes this episode particularly interesting.
Penny didn't come into Willona's life under ordinary circumstances.
In the previous season, Penny had been physically abused by her biological mother.
Willona discovered what was happening, became involved, and eventually adopted her.
That story showed Willona at her very best.
She recognized that a child was being harmed.
She refused to look away.
And she made an extraordinary commitment to giving Penny a safer home.
I admire her for that.
Which is why her behavior in "Stomach Mumps" is so frustrating.
The same woman who had the courage to intervene when Penny was being abused now seems unable to face a conversation about sex.
She isn't indifferent to her daughter.
She's frightened for her.
She wants Penny to enjoy the childhood she deserves.
And perhaps, after everything Penny has already experienced, Willona desperately wants to believe she can keep anything else unpleasant from entering her life.
I understand the instinct.
But here's the trouble.
You can't protect a child's childhood by refusing to prepare her for the world she's actually living in.
Willona has already learned that children can be mistreated by people who are supposed to care for them.
She ought to know that danger doesn't wait for a convenient birthday.
And she ought to know that Penny needs more than affection.
She needs guidance.
Willona's intentions are good.
Her judgment, in this episode, isn't.
And I don't believe good intentions should exempt a parent from criticism.
"She's My Daughter" Isn't an Answer to Every Concern
One of the things that bothers me most is Willona's reaction whenever Florida tries to help.
She repeatedly reminds Florida that Penny is her daughter.
She insists that she has the right to decide how Penny will be raised.
And eventually, she becomes so angry that she forbids Penny from visiting the Evans family.
Now, I believe parents should have substantial authority over how they raise their children.
I don't think every neighbor, relative, or well-meaning acquaintance gets to dictate household rules.
And I certainly wouldn't appreciate someone barging into my home and announcing that she knew how to raise my child better than I did.
But there's a difference between unwanted interference and legitimate concern.
Florida isn't trying to take Penny away from Willona.
She's not trying to undermine her relationship with the child.
She's pointing out that Penny has questions Willona refuses to answer.
And Florida knows this because Penny is already asking them.
Instead of considering the concern, Willona treats the conversation as an attack on her authority.
That's a mistake parents sometimes make.
They become so focused on defending their right to decide that they stop examining whether their decision makes sense.
And I don't admire that.
Being the parent gives you responsibility. It doesn't make you infallible.
If someone who genuinely cares about your child raises a reasonable concern, you can listen without surrendering your authority.
You can disagree.
You can establish boundaries.
But dismissing every concern with "She's my child" isn't an argument.
It's a declaration of ownership.
And children aren't property.
They're people whose well-being matters more than an adult's pride.
Penny Was Already Learning Things Without Willona
Here's where Florida's argument becomes impossible to dismiss.
Penny visits the Evans apartment and begins talking about Tina.
She repeats Willona's explanation about the supposedly contagious illness.
But then she admits that Tina looks pregnant.
Florida is surprised.
How does Penny know about pregnancy?
Well, she's heard other girls discussing it at school.
Penny doesn't fully understand what they're saying.
She sometimes wants to ask questions, but she's embarrassed because she thinks she might sound foolish.
Now, doesn't that tell us something?
Penny isn't blissfully unaware of the subject.
She's collecting bits and pieces of information from other children.
She doesn't know what's accurate.
And she doesn't feel comfortable asking enough questions to find out.
Meanwhile, her mother is pretending pregnancy is an infectious disease.
Good grief.
If your child is old enough to ask a serious question, she's old enough to deserve an honest answer suited to her level of understanding.
That doesn't mean providing every adult detail in one conversation.
It means beginning somewhere.
Explain what she wants to know.
Make it clear she can ask more.
And don't turn ordinary curiosity into something shameful.
Because if children become convinced that asking a parent is embarrassing or forbidden, where do you think they're going to get their information?
Other children.
Rumors.
The internet, today.
Or people whose intentions may be considerably less honorable.
Florida understood that in 1978.
And I think her argument has become even more relevant.
Then Penny Comes Home Crying
This is the scene that gives the episode its real weight.
Penny needs gym shorts for school.
Willona has forbidden her from approaching Tina, so Penny contacts another friend.
That friend isn't home.
Her brother brings the shorts instead.
Penny meets him in the hallway.
And he refuses to give her the clothing unless she allows him to do something sexual.
Penny escapes.
But she returns frightened, crying, and struggling to explain what happened.
And then she asks the question that makes me furious.
Did she do something wrong?
There it is.
A child has been threatened and sexually coerced by someone else.
And she's wondering whether she's responsible.
Penny had a perfectly ordinary reason to meet him.
She was trying to borrow gym shorts.
She hadn't asked for sexual attention.
She hadn't agreed to anything.
She hadn't done anything wrong.
But she doesn't have the knowledge or confidence to understand what the boy was demanding or why his behavior was unacceptable.
And that is heartbreaking.
I want to be very clear here.
Penny's lack of sexual knowledge did not cause the boy's behavior. He was responsible for what he tried to do.
Teaching Penny earlier would not have guaranteed that nobody would ever threaten her.
Children who understand bodily boundaries can still be victimized.
And no child should ever be blamed because an adult didn't explain something soon enough.
But knowledge can help a child recognize inappropriate behavior, understand that she has the right to refuse, and know whom to tell.
Penny desperately needed that foundation.
And Willona had been postponing it.
The Most Important Question Was Whether Penny Was Safe
When Penny explains what happened, Willona is horrified.
She wants to know whether the boy actually assaulted her.
Penny says she ran away.
And Willona is enormously relieved.
I understand that relief.
Any parent would be thankful to learn that her child managed to escape a dangerous situation.
But I also think there's an important distinction.
The fact that Penny escaped doesn't mean nothing happened.
This reminds me of "When Adults Blame the Victim: The Little House on the Prairie Episode That Still Makes Me Angry." Sylvia Webb's circumstances were much more tragic, but both episodes make the same point: a young girl who's been threatened or harmed needs adults who will believe her, protect her, and hold the responsible person accountable.
She was threatened.
She was frightened.
And she came home believing she might have been responsible for someone else's misconduct.
That matters.
Children don't have to suffer a completed physical assault before adults should take their experiences seriously.
Sexual coercion is serious.
Threatening behavior is serious.
And when a child tells you someone tried to make her do something sexual, the appropriate response isn't to minimize the experience because she managed to get away.
It's to make sure she's safe, listen carefully, reassure her that she did nothing wrong, and take appropriate steps to address what happened.
Florida understands the need for action.
She tells Willona to take Penny home and talk to her.
And Florida takes responsibility for contacting the police.
I particularly appreciate that division of responsibility.
Willona needs to support her daughter.
The authorities need to address the threatening behavior.
Penny doesn't need to be the one figuring out what happens next.
That's what the adults are supposed to handle.
Florida Wasn't Telling Penny to Grow Up Faster
Here's another detail that deserves attention.
When Penny comes home crying, Willona sees her as a baby.
And in many ways, she is.
She's a child who deserves to be protected.
But Florida points out that Penny is also developing and needs accurate information.
I agree with both observations.
Penny is a child.
And she's growing up.
Those facts aren't contradictory.
You don't suddenly become a fully mature adult because puberty begins.
You don't become ready for sexual relationships merely because other people are interested in you.
And you don't lose your right to protection because you're no longer a little girl.
But you do need to understand the changes taking place in your life.
And you need to know what constitutes appropriate behavior from other people.
This is where some parents get confused.
They hear the phrase sex education and immediately imagine someone encouraging children to become sexually active.
But that's not what age-appropriate education has to mean.
You can teach a child that her body belongs to her.
You can explain that nobody has the right to demand sexual contact.
You can teach her to recognize threats, pressure, and manipulation.
You can tell her that she may always come to you if someone makes her uncomfortable.
And you can do all of that while maintaining whatever reasonable values your family has about relationships, modesty, and waiting until adulthood.
Knowledge doesn't require abandoning your principles. It helps children understand how to protect themselves while living by those principles.
That is the conversation Willona needed to have.
The Facts of Life Aren't Just About Pregnancy
I also think Florida was making a point that can get lost in the episode's dramatic ending.
Willona is primarily concerned about Penny becoming pregnant.
She sees Tina's situation and immediately fears that her daughter could make the same choices.
But Penny's experience in the hallway involves something entirely different.
She wasn't trying to become sexually active.
She was being pressured by someone who wanted to take advantage of her.
Those situations require different conversations.
A parent discussing healthy, age-appropriate relationships should explain mutual respect, boundaries, and the importance of not pressuring someone.
But a parent also needs to teach children that another person's demands don't create an obligation.
And that includes demands made by someone they know.
A friend's brother.
A neighbor.
A classmate.
Or someone the family considers trustworthy.
We often warn children about strangers.
Yet the person who makes a child uncomfortable may be someone already familiar to them.
That's why I wouldn't limit the conversation to staying away from suspicious-looking people.
I'd focus on behavior.
Does someone want the child to keep an uncomfortable secret?
Is the person pressuring the child after being told no?
Is the person using gifts, favors, or threats to demand something inappropriate?
Those are things children can be taught to recognize in age-appropriate language.
And they need to understand that they can tell a trusted adult, even if the person involved is someone the family knows.
That isn't destroying childhood.
It's protecting it.
Willona's Mistake Was Confusing Silence With Safety
I think this is the central failure in Willona's reasoning.
She believes that if Penny doesn't hear about sex, she won't become interested in it.
And if Penny isn't interested, she'll remain safe.
But the world doesn't operate according to that logic.
Other people's behavior doesn't depend on what Penny knows.
The boy in the hallway doesn't become harmless because Penny is innocent.
And Tina doesn't stop being pregnant because Willona calls her condition something else.
Willona can decide when she's comfortable discussing a subject.
She cannot decide when Penny will encounter it.
That's the difference.
And it's an important one.
The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages parents to answer children's questions honestly, in language appropriate to their ages, and to teach bodily autonomy and boundaries early.
The World Health Organization also reports that well-designed, age-appropriate sexuality education does not encourage earlier sexual activity.
Those are meaningful distinctions.
I don't think parents should be frightened into giving children more information than they can understand.
But I also don't think embarrassment is a sound parenting strategy.
If your child asks a question you aren't prepared to answer, you can say you need a moment to think about how to explain it.
Then follow through.
What you shouldn't do is invent a disease and hope nobody notices.
Florida Had the Backbone to Risk Her Friendship
There's something else about this episode I admire.
Florida doesn't stop speaking up simply because Willona becomes angry.
And Willona gets very angry.
She questions Florida's parenting.
She refuses to let Penny visit the Evans household.
And she turns a disagreement between two longtime friends into a bitter confrontation.
Now, Florida can be stubborn.
She has a sharp tongue.
And sometimes she isn't particularly diplomatic.
But in this case, I think she has every reason to stand firm.
She's concerned about a child.
She's raising a legitimate issue.
And she refuses to pretend the matter is unimportant simply to keep the peace.
That's the kind of friendship I respect.
Not someone who agrees with everything you do.
Not someone who flatters you while privately believing you're making a serious mistake.
But someone who cares enough to tell you the truth.
Of course, there's a proper way to raise concerns.
You shouldn't humiliate a parent in front of a child or turn every difference of opinion into an argument.
But when someone refuses to listen and a child's well-being is involved, sometimes a friend needs to be persistent.
Florida wasn't demanding that Willona abandon her authority as Penny's mother.
She was asking her to exercise that authority responsibly.
And I think the distinction matters.
A friend who is willing to risk an uncomfortable conversation because she cares about your child may be worth considerably more than one who tells you whatever you want to hear.
Willona eventually understands that.
And when she thanks Florida, it's one of the episode's most touching moments.
Being a Mensch Sometimes Means Having the Conversation Nobody Wants
There's a Jewish principle I keep coming back to when television stories involve children in danger.
Leviticus tells us not to stand idly by when another person's safety is at stake.
I believe that.
And I also believe the obligation applies when protecting someone requires having an uncomfortable conversation.
Florida saw a problem.
She raised it.
Willona told her to mind her own business.
And Florida didn't simply shrug and walk away.
Now, being a mensch doesn't give someone permission to interfere in every household disagreement.
People are entitled to different opinions about parenting.
And not every disagreement becomes a matter of safety.
But when a child is being kept uninformed about something directly related to her well-being, concern is reasonable.
And when a child reports threatening behavior, concern needs to become action.
That doesn't require a dramatic speech.
It requires listening.
It requires judgment.
And it requires recognizing that the child's needs matter more than the adults' embarrassment.
I don't think Willona intended to put Penny at risk.
But intentions aren't the only thing that matters.
Love is a feeling. Protecting a child requires decisions.
And sometimes those decisions involve discussing things we'd rather avoid.
That's part of the job.
What I'd Want Every Parent to Teach a Child Like Penny
If I were having the conversation Willona kept postponing, I wouldn't begin by frightening Penny with every terrible possibility in the world.
I'd begin with the basics.
Your body belongs to you.
Nobody is entitled to sexual contact with you.
You don't have to agree to something because someone is older, stronger, popular, or doing you a favor.
If someone makes you uncomfortable, you're allowed to leave.
If you need help, tell a trusted adult.
And if someone threatens or tricks you, that doesn't make the situation your fault.
I'd also explain that some subjects are private without making them shameful.
Children can learn that sex belongs within an appropriate, mutually respectful relationship without being made afraid to ask questions.
And if a child has already experienced something upsetting, the conversation needs to begin with reassurance and safety—not a lecture about what the child should have known.
I would never tell Penny that she might have prevented the situation if she'd simply paid more attention.
The boy was responsible.
Period.
I've discussed the difference between teaching responsibility and creating shame in "How to Teach Children Responsibility Without Shaming Them." But Penny's situation calls for an even more basic distinction: you cannot hold a child responsible for somebody else's misconduct.
But I would want her to know, from that day forward, that she could come to Willona with any question or concern.
Even an embarrassing one.
Especially an embarrassing one.
Because if Penny is afraid to speak, Willona may never know when something is wrong.
And I think that's far more dangerous than explaining the facts of life.
Good Times Was Teaching the Lesson Through Willona's Mistake
I want to give the writers credit for something.
"Stomach Mumps" isn't telling parents to keep children ignorant.
It's showing us what happens when a loving parent confuses ignorance with innocence.
Willona isn't a villain.
She's a frightened mother trying to protect a child she loves.
And the episode asks us to recognize that her approach is wrong.
Florida becomes the voice of experience.
Penny becomes the person whose needs are being overlooked while the adults argue.
And the final incident makes the consequences impossible to ignore.
Now, I'm not suggesting that every parent who postpones a conversation is placing a child in immediate danger.
Nor do I believe the episode proves that one timely discussion would necessarily have prevented the boy's misconduct.
That would put responsibility in the wrong place.
But the story demonstrates something genuinely important.
Children encounter situations adults cannot always anticipate.
And the answer isn't to leave them guessing.
It's to give them the knowledge, confidence, and support they need while holding the people who behave improperly accountable.
The writers understood that distinction almost fifty years ago.
And the episode still works because Willona's mistake is so recognizable.
Parents want to keep children safe.
But sometimes they're so uncomfortable with reality that they mistake avoiding the subject for protecting the child.
That's what the episode is warning us about.
Willona Saved Penny Once. Florida Helped Her Protect Penny Again.
I think the history between these characters makes the ending especially powerful.
Willona had already shown enormous courage when she helped Penny escape an abusive home.
She knew the girl deserved better.
She fought to protect her.
And she became her mother.
But becoming a parent doesn't mean you've finished learning how to be one.
New situations arise.
Children grow.
And sometimes the approach that made sense yesterday isn't enough for the problems they face tomorrow.
Willona had to learn that loving Penny meant more than keeping her close and shielding her from difficult subjects.
It meant preparing her to recognize danger, ask questions, and understand her own rights.
And Florida had to be willing to challenge a friend she loved.
That's a meaningful lesson for both women.
I don't think Willona became a bad mother because she made this mistake.
I think she became a better mother when she finally listened.
And I wouldn't want anyone to forget the real responsibility in the episode.
The boy who threatened Penny was the person who behaved wrongly.
Penny had done nothing to deserve what happened.
But the adults were responsible for making sure she had accurate information, compassionate support, and appropriate protection afterward.
That's what Florida understood.
And that's what Willona finally recognized.
You cannot promise your child that the world will never expose her to something frightening. But you can promise not to leave her ignorant, ashamed, or alone when she needs your help.
I believe in protecting childhood.
I believe in innocence.
And I believe parents should have values they aren't afraid to teach.
But I don't believe children should be left vulnerable simply because adults would rather avoid an uncomfortable subject.
Penny wasn't asking to become a grown woman.
She was asking questions.
And she deserved truthful answers.
Willona loved her enough to save her from one terrible situation.
Florida loved them both enough to insist that Penny needed to be prepared for the next.
And sometimes that's what being a mensch looks like.
Not pretending everything is fine.
Not minding your own business when someone needs help.
And not allowing embarrassment to become more important than a child's safety.
Florida was right. The conversation should have happened long before Penny came home crying.
And that's where I stand.
Sources and Further Reading
American Academy of Pediatrics — When and How to Talk With Your Child About Sex
World Health Organization — Comprehensive Sexuality Education
RAINN — How Can Parents Help Protect Kids From Sexual Abuse?
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